I really appreciate this perspective on reframing uncomfortable questions. There’s wisdom in shifting from ‘Is my partner cheating?’ to something like ‘What do I need to see clearly in this situation?’
This approach respects everyone’s free will while still providing meaningful guidance. It also puts the focus back on what the querent can actually do with the information - whether that’s having an honest conversation, examining their own intuition, or recognizing patterns they’ve been avoiding. That said, sometimes people need direct answers to direct questions, and there’s value in honoring that too. The key seems to be matching your reading style to both the situation and your own comfort level. If a particular question crosses your ethical boundaries or makes you feel like you can’t read clearly, reframing it isn’t avoiding the issue - it’s being responsible about what you can authentically provide.