Healing Hearts: Complete Reconciliation Tarot Spread

[Your-Guide]

Not all bridges are meant to be rebuilt, but some are worth the careful work of restoration.

This reconciliation spread acts as your spiritual architect, helping you assess the foundation, identify the cracks, and determine whether reconstruction is possible… or even advisable. Our goal here isn’t just to see whether or not it’s possible, we want to know how to prevent being in this situation again.

It’s a spread I’ve refined through years of witnessing both successful reunions and necessary closures, always with the understanding that true reconciliation requires more than just desire; it demands growth, understanding, and mutual commitment.

The Spread

1. The Rift - The core issue or conflict that led to the separation
2. Your Heart - Your true feelings and desires regarding reconciliation
3. Their Heart - Their true feelings and desires regarding reconciliation
4. The Bridge - What can bring you both together and enable healing
5. Obstacles - Challenges or barriers that may hinder reconciliation
6. Healing Potential - The possible outcome if both parties commit to reconciliation
7. Wisdom Gained - Lessons learned from the separation that can strengthen the relationship

Significant Cards

All cards matter, but these are the ones that inform the meaning of the other cards.

• The Lovers card is particularly important, often indicating a strong connection or important choice regarding the relationship.

• The Six of Cups can be a powerful sign, suggesting nostalgia, past connections, and the potential for rekindling old feelings or resolving past issues.

• The Two of Wands, which typically represents a crossroads or decision point, potentially signaling that one or both parties are contemplating whether to move forward with reconciliation.

• The Judgment card in this context can be especially meaningful, often indicating a period of reflection, forgiveness, and the possibility of a fresh start or renewed understanding between the individuals involved.

Timing & Preparation

The reconciliation Tarot spread is best performed during a waning moon phase, as this represents releasing old energies and making space for new beginnings. It’s also ideal to do this spread when you’re feeling calm and centered, rather than in the heat of an argument or emotional turmoil. Before beginning, take a few minutes to ground yourself through deep breathing or a short meditation, focusing on your intention for healing and understanding in the relationship.

The Thoth Tarot deck, created by Aleister Crowley, is a good deck for this type of reading, as its complex and nuanced artwork can reveal subtle aspects of the situation that might otherwise be overlooked. For those seeking a less conventional approach, the lesser-known Osho Zen Tarot deck offers a fresh perspective on reconciliation, focusing on personal growth and inner wisdom rather than traditional Tarot symbolism. Of course, any deck can be used for a reconciliation spread, as the most effective readings come from the reader’s connection to their chosen cards.

When reading a reconciliation Tarot spread, look at how the cards interact and tell a story together, rather than interpreting each one in isolation. Look for recurring symbols, elements, or numbers across the spread, as these often point to key themes or energies at play in the reconciliation process. When it comes to reversals in a reconciliation spread, consider them as internal or blocked energies that may need to be addressed before moving forward. They often highlight areas where personal growth or healing is needed to facilitate true reconciliation.

Please share your experience with this reading or your variations

[AuraReader]

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[SpiritGuides]

If your Healing Potential shows The Sun but your Bridge card is The Five of Swords, then the cards are revealing that while the outcome could be positive, the path there involves confronting uncomfortable truths or power struggles first.

If multiple cards seem to contradict each other, read them as stages of the experience rather than conflicting messages; reconciliation rarely follows a straight line.

[WarmSoul]

I’ve started incorporating selenite wands to clear the energy between readings when doing multiple reconciliation spreads over time, and while it’s challenging work, I’m finding that tracking the evolution of cards in each position creates this beautiful map of growth.

It’s nice seeing harsh cards slowly transform into softer energies as both people do their inner work, yesterday’s Five of Swords became today’s Two of Cups in my ‘Bridge’ position after months of individual healing.

[bright-spirit]

After pulling this spread, try writing one sentence about what surprised you most, just one. Tomorrow, write another sentence about what feels different now that you’ve sat with the reading overnight.

[ChakraFlow]

When I pulled the Eight of Cups reversed as guidance in my healing spread with my trusty RWD. Sometimes the cards warn us that present happiness (like The Sun) doesn’t always mean we’ve found the right vessel for our healing experience.

[Sunshine]

My orange tabby Felix always sits directly on the ‘Their Heart’ position whenever I lay out this spread - like he’s protecting me from reading energies that might hurt!

Last week both my familiars started purring intensely when The Star appeared as my healing potential, which I took as confirmation that hope was warranted.

[swords-mind]

We need to recognize how our past wounds and emotional needs intertwine with those of our partner, that is, our relationship story.

The cards consistently reveal that true reconciliation isn’t just about mending what’s broken between two people, but understanding how each person’s individual experiences and scars have shaped the dynamic you’re trying to heal. This is why positions like ‘Your Heart’ and ‘Their Heart’ become so vital.

Sometimes the path forward requires us to first experience inward through self-reflection and cultivating our own capacity for self-love before we can authentically extend it to another.

[ChakraBalance]

Sorry if this seems obvious to everyone else, but reconciliation spreads work best when I stop trying to use them as a crystal ball to predict if we’ll get back together!

Moved my focus to understanding what feels emotionally true and healthy for me in the situation, the cards became so much clearer and more helpful. It’s like the deck responds better to ‘what do I need to know about this connection?’ rather than ‘will they come back?’

The whole reading flows differently when you approach it as emotional exploration rather than fortune-telling.

[TemperanceFlow]

I’ve gently discovered that working with the healing hearts reconciliation spread offers such tender support beyond relationship insights (it’s been quietly nurturing my creative spirit in ways I hadn’t anticipated.

After this kind of reading, I notice a soft stirring of inspiration that draws me toward writing or painting, allowing me to carefully channel these big emotions into artistic expression. This gentle, creative release seems to be cradling my healing experience with such care, offering a safe space for transformation that I hope others might find equally comforting in their own tender process of growth.

[MysticPath]

The Four of Swords appearing in reconciliation spreads often signals that we’re meant to enter a period of conscious separation before any reunion, but how many of us actually honor that pause? I guess we’re not really used to waiting anymore, with the modern world just so focused on immediate rewards and avoidance.

I’ve been experimenting with laying out all four Queens as significators for different aspects of myself during reconciliation work, Queen of Wands for my passionate self, Queen of Cups for my emotional self, Queen of Swords for my boundary-setting self, and Queen of Pentacles for my grounded self, and asking which aspect needs healing before approaching the other person.

The problem is we often skip the hermit phase and rush toward resolution when the cards are literally screaming for stillness. Don’t just do this spread for the sake of it, really listen to what the cards are trying to tell you.

[CardKeeper]

I just had The Tower show up in my ‘foundation assessment’ position and it made me realize sometimes the structure needs to completely collapse before true reconciliation can happen, like the universe is literally showing us the old blueprint won’t work anymore.

This reminds me of a perspective I came across that really shifted how I view these spreads, where they explore reconciliation as an alchemical process of transformation rather than just repair work. Often, The Tower paired with cards like Death or The Fool actually signals the deepest potential for genuine rebuilding, not from the old foundation but from sacred ground zero.

[TreeHugger]

The Marseille deck’s minimal pip cards force us to rely more on numerology and intuition in reconciliation spreads, while the symbolism of decks like the Wild Unknown can reveal nature-based healing metaphors we might miss. You’re right, perfect for this kind of spread.

Using a stark black-and-white deck like the Hermetic Tarot for reconciliation readings strips away emotional projections and shows the bare bones of what needs healing. The geometric patterns in sacred geometry decks can illuminate the mathematical precision needed to rebuild trust, versus the flowing watercolors of the Dreaming Way that honor the messiness of human connection.

[MysticDeck]

I love this kind of spread but 100000% combine it with something like a shadow work reading if you really want to see the result. Using tarot for shadow work really helped me identify my own blind spots that were contributing to relationship patterns, making the healing process deeper than just deciding whether to reconnect.

Led to the best relationship of my life.

[SufficientPath111]

Just pulled this spread for myself and wow, the Ten of Swords reversed in position 5 (Obstacles), it’s like the cards were asking me if I was ready to break my own toxic patterns or just recreate the same wounded narrative.

What really shifted my perspective was seeing the Three of Cups show up and realizing my healing way needed to center around platonic connections first, like building my support system before even thinking about romantic reconciliation. It’s giving major ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ energy, and honestly, that’s the shadow work talking. Sometimes the biggest obstacle to reconciliation isn’t them, it’s our attachment to old stories about who we are in relationships!

[Cardflip]

I’ve noticed the wise old King of Cups keeps showing up in reconciliation spreads as the ‘what to do’ card, basically telling us to channel our inner emotional zen master and resist the urge to bombard our ex with texts at 2am.

It’s like he’s sitting there with his cup saying ‘patience, grasshopper’ while we’re internally screaming about wanting answers NOW!

[sunshine_day]

For those feeling overwhelmed by the full spread, try simplifying it by focusing on just The Rift and The Bridge cards while sipping chamomile tea to ease anxiety or peppermint to sharpen mental clarity.

This pared-down approach can still provide guidance without the need for a full reading, making it accessible for beginners or those short on time. Think about pairing The Rift card with grounding herbs like mugwort or sage tea to help process challenges, while The Bridge card hits home beautifully with transitional blends like passionflower or lemon balm to support forward movement.