I want to get my friend a tarot card necklace for their birthday, but I’m stuck on which card to choose. I could use some help.
My friend has been going through a lot lately. They feel lost about their identity, their future, basically everything. The thing is, I’ve watched them change so much over the past couple of years. They’ve tried new things, worked on themselves and really pushed outside their comfort zone.
But whenever we talk, they say they’re “weak” and keep falling back into old patterns. They call themselves lazy and uninspired. I see someone who’s made real progress, but they just can’t see it.
I want the necklace to be a message of love and encouragement. Something that says I see them and believe in them, without making it feel like I’m giving them homework or expectations. I’m planning to write a letter explaining my choice too.
Any suggestions for which card might capture this? Something about patience with yourself, or recognizing growth even when it’s messy?
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Oooh, I am so into this idea. I’ve seen various types of Tarot jewelry over the years (people find out you’re a reader and they want to show you), but the one thing is get a card or symbol that matches them.
This one has all the major cards in silver or gold, but (given your description) I’d say get the Star or Sun card. They’re good quality and depict the proper card without being too bulky or heavy.
I like the idea of showing the whole card on a necklace like this, but it’s hard to fit without wearing a big necklace (and I like my jewelry small), so maybe getting rid of the borders is nicer.
Personal choice, but I really like your idea for your friend
Your heart is in the right place, but a single card might be limited… and what happens when the mood changes? I don’t (personally) like a single card in a necklace, but you could do something like this instead:
A series of charms (you can pick the ones you want) that match her better and you’re not limited by a single card.
Tarot isn’t just about fortune-telling. In some cultures, people use it for reflection.
In China, I’ve seen people wearing tarot jewelry. Not for luck or anything, they just use it as a reminder to think about their life and where they’re headed. Your friend might be into that side of tarot. It’s less about predicting stuff and more about understanding yourself.
Tarot jewelry works best when the symbols mean something to the person wearing it. Don’t stress about finding the perfect card, and I think the fact you even thought of it matters most.
The Fool could be good for your friend. It’s about new beginnings and not needing to have everything figured out. And honestly, giving someone a card that means ‘divine idiot on a path’ is kind of funny. Might get a laugh out of them during a tough time.
Don’t stress about getting the traditional tarot meanings right in your letter.
What matters more is connecting the card images to your friend’s life. If The Moon card reminds you of their emotional ups and downs, just write about that. It’ll mean more to them than any official interpretation.
Something to think about, the metal type makes a big difference. Sterling silver tarnishes over time which actually looks pretty cool with tarot jewelry. Gives it that worn, mystical look… But if your friend’s got sensitive skin or is the type who never takes their jewelry off (even in the shower), surgical steel or gold-plated pieces hold up better.
Some Etsy sellers make reversible pendants. Card art on one side, just the card name or a symbol on the other. Nice option if your friend wants to be more subtle about the tarot thing sometimes.
Get them The Fool! Nothing says ‘I believe in your chaotic process’ like gifting a card that means professional cliff-jumper. Actually works for the identity crisis thing though.
Seven of Pentacles feels right for this situation. It’s the card of patience and waiting for results. The imagery is perfect - there’s a farmer literally just standing there watching his crops. He planted the seeds, did the work, now he has to wait.
Your friend sounds like they’re in the same spot. They’ve put in effort but can’t see the payoff yet. A pendant with this card could work as a daily reminder. When you’re doubting yourself, it helps to have something physical that says ‘hey, growth takes time.’
The Star might work well for your friend. It’s a card about hope and finding light when things feel dark.
What I like about The Star is that it comes right after The Tower in the Major Arcana, so it’s about finding peace after chaos. The imagery shows renewal and spiritual guidance which could be meaningful. You know your friend best though.
Whatever card you pick will mean something since you’re putting thought into it.
People always think you need to stick with Major Arcana cards for necklaces, but Minor Arcana can be just as meaningful.
The Ace of Cups is a good example, it represents emotional renewal and self-love. I think these cards work well when you’re going through personal changes.
If they’re new to tarot that might up more possibilities? You could choose based purely on the imagery that speaks to you rather than worrying about traditional meanings.
Think about it - someone unfamiliar with tarot might connect more with the visual story of a card than its textbook interpretation. Isn’t there something beautiful about that? The Hermit, for instance, shows someone on their own journey with a lantern. Even without knowing it represents introspection and soul-searching, wouldn’t that image resonate with someone questioning their path?
On the flip side, if they do know tarot, you might want to avoid cards with heavier connotations. Would you really want to gift The Tower or Death to someone already feeling lost, even if transformation is technically positive?
Maybe the real question is: do you want the card to be an introduction to tarot’s wisdom, or just a beautiful symbol of your support? Either way works, but knowing their experience level definitely helps narrow down which cards might land best.
The Hermit card makes sense with those exploring self-discovery through solitude. There’s a cool discussion on choosing tarot pendants that fit personal journeys, not just traditional meanings. It’s cool how these symbols can become part of our daily life.
The Star might be good for that. It’s the card that shows up after everything goes to hell. Always reminded me of finding a good coffee shop right after your worst day.
If you’re thinking about the size of the necklace, some designs are more abstract, so it could look like regular jewelry if your friend doesn’t talk much about their tarot interest. I’ve seen some nice ones where the wand is made to look like a simple torch or flame pendant.
